As people whose daily job is to think about relationships and love; it was no surprise that the movie "Rocky Aur Rani Ki Prem Kahani" has become a central part of our discussions in the last few weeks. It’s a classic Karan Johar film with so much more! It provides a refreshing perspective that encourages us to question societal norms and embrace the beauty of love in all its forms. There were some profound lessons that gently nudged us to explore our perspectives on love, relationships, and societal expectations. Here’s what we thought of it and what we learned through the movie and our conversations!
In a world that often extols stoicism and invulnerability, Rocky stands as a resounding reminder that true strength emanates from the ability to be open and authentic. His willingness to reveal his emotions, doubts, and fears paints a portrait of a man comfortable in his own skin. By allowing himself to be vulnerable, Rocky challenges the stereotype of masculinity that discourages emotional expression. This served as an invitation for us all to peel away the armor we wear and embrace our vulnerability, fostering deeper connections with those around us, especially our partner.
Gender norms have been pervasive in many areas of our lives and often go by unaddressed. Through Rani's journey, the film subtly dismantles the boundaries set by rigid gender norms. Her determination to pursue her professional aspirations while nurturing her relationships underscores the idea that a woman can be both ambitious and nurturing, strong and sensitive. In different moments across the film, like when she questions the idea of ‘seva’ being one sided - she addressed these norms directly but with kindness. Rani’s gentle yet fierce navigation of challenges and stereotypes is a refreshing break from demure and self-sacrificing portrayals of women on screen.
Rocky's character also defies the stereotypes that pigeonhole masculinity through his vulnerability and authenticity. It serves as a reminder that strength doesn't solely reside in physical prowess, but also in emotional openness. Whether it’s through witty one liners or the incredible Kathak performance, Rocky challenges gender roles and patriarchy through these moments, and we were encouraged to question these unwritten rules of society and how we too can challenge them in our spaces.
In a now-viral dialogue, “For lovers, the steering wheel may be in their hands, but its the family navigating as backseat drivers’’, perhaps summarizes the dilemma of the movie and with that of millions of Indian couples. Our collectivist culture centers on family which comes along with fulfilling many expectations - some that we believe in and some we grow out of.
It brought back many conversations with peers and clients about the challenges that come with decisions that are in conflict with family expectations - whether it's a decision for a small wedding, to have children later in life or even in marrying a person of their own choice.
The movie made us think about how the couple emerges as a family unit of its own. It is then their commitment to their values, their vision for their relationship that culminates in the classic Bollywood happy ending.
Amidst the grand gestures and dramatic turns of the plot, the film captures the beauty of the everyday. The stolen glances, shared laughter, and simple moments of togetherness remind us that love flourishes in the mundane. These fleeting instances become the heartbeat of relationships, reminding us to savor the present and find joy in the smallest of gestures.
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As the credits roll, "Rocky Aur Rani Ki Prem Kahani" lingers in our minds as more than just a cinematic escapade. How many times do we step away from difficult conversations, ignoring uncomfortable comments? In our own families and social circles? It pushes us to question the societal norms that often go unexamined, inviting us to envision a world that embraces individuality and equality. It sparks conversations about the roles we play and the expectations we internalize, pushing us to redefine them in pursuit of a more inclusive and harmonious society.
